Our 3C Formula© for enabling change:

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Quite often, we wrestle with aspects of our lives and ourselves that feel unhinged, unfinished, or off-balance. Like a part of us feels wounded, untapped, restless or weighed down. We’re haunted by all the things we wish we’d said or didn’t say, the choices we made that we wish we hadn’t, the things we didn’t see, the chances we didn’t take, and the part/s of ourselves that we wish didn’t exist. As a result, we may feel trapped in a time warp, functioning in the now but held hostage to a different time or place in our hearts and minds. In a work setting, we may feel like we’re in the wrong room but the right building, or the wrong building but the right room.

We work with you to address the unfinished business that may be holding you back from living your best life or achieving what’s important. For instance, you may be struggling with:

Relationship Conflict  

• Unresolved differences
• Unresolved heartache
• Giving more than taking

 Navigating Grief

• Identity loss (burden of death / illness / aging)
• Survivor’s guilt and displacement
• Lost sense of meaning or desire to live

 Change Fatigue

• Pulled in different directions
• Suffocating beneath too many big changes at once
• Surviving not thriving

If unfinished business is not a barrier to feeling our best, lack of clarity about what we need or want to function at our best, maybe. We want or need specific things, yet our feelings, actions or environments tell us otherwise. Racing or conflicting thoughts overpower us, we live with constant feelings of physical tension, or feel physically ill at the thought of taking a stand on something or voicing an opinion for fear of looking incompetent, different, pushy, or needy. We constantly feel like we are at a fork in the road with no idea which way to turn, or simply feel like we may be living a double life. We tell ourselves that life shouldn’t feel so difficult, but our bodies, society, and performance tell us otherwise.

We work with you to identify the aspects of yourself, your life or work that feel confusing and aspects that feel energizing at the same time, to create a clear picture of your values, strengths, personality or brand, needs, and goals. For instance, you may be struggling with: 

Unaddressed Needs   

• Unexpressed, overlooked, or criticized needs (e.g., gender/sexual identity, learning challenges, neurodivergence, cultural preferences)
• Unknown needs from living according to other’s expectations (e.g., people pleasing)
• Competing for attention (e.g., conflicting motivations with others)

 Overwhelm and Chaos  

• Struggling with disorganization, boredom, or chasing joy
• Struggling with too much organization, too much stimulation, and relentless expectations
• Trying to keep up with others but feeling behind or unworthy of achieving the same things

Paralysis  

• Wanting or wishing for too much all at once and not knowing where to start.
• Feeling controlled or manipulated by others and losing one’s sense of confidence and value.
• Staying in relationships that no longer fill you up or avoiding relationships to maintain freedom.

Once aspects of unfinished business and clarity have been addressed, charting a course for living differently, and more authentically, is paramount for change to take hold. Courage is the mobilizing force that supports action in the face of fear, not in the absence of it. 

We will work with you to identify and effectively control fears that exist in dangerous or difficult situations that will inevitably appear as life continues to unfold. For instance, you may be struggling with:

Staying in Control   

• Overthinking details and expecting others to
• Trying to manage people and situations excessively
• Choosing responsibility over fun and adventure

Believing Our Fears 

• Convincing ourselves that things will go wrong in stressful situations
• Certainty about our inability to cope with hardships, thus avoiding risks
• Doubting others’ ability to support us if admitting need for help

  Not Wanting to be Alone 

• Saying yes to others when wanting to say no
• Being with people who don’t lift us up
• Staying in relationships we have outgrown